Hype is not happiness

Happiness is over a successful accomplishment – not over being hyped-up – and not over feeling content. Cows are supposed to feel content. Not people.

Happiness in finding a good relationship is like the feeling one would get with success in school or work. Success with a man can make a woman feel very good. The love that follows makes her feel even better. Yes love is a wonderful feeling, and finding a good man to have a relationship with has a success component to it when it leads to mutual affection.

Relationship Books

A woman told me how “good” she felt ordering a book on how she could get any man that she wanted. It is true that these relationship books can sometimes make you feel high. But after you get your feet back on the ground, you will find that men are not that simple to catch and then you may get a big let-down.

Many women all over the world are trying to link up with a suitable man, and women buy relationship book after relationship book about this. Each one has a few good ideas and may make her feel “high” inside. Some get this “high” feeling from alcohol or drugs, but you know about how these have a high followed by a let-down. I call this a hype feeling. It is followed by an awful feeling inside that it is not working with what the book tells you to do about men.

So many go on to the next relationship book.

Some books give clues on flirting. But what does this behaviour do to a woman mentally? It turns her into a superficial being and she may get a man for a while, but what happens when he discovers that she is a phony? She, too, may feel false inside.

I suggest giving these books or web sites a no-no as well.

Catch a Man

Men are not fish! One cannot catch any man that one wants. He just may not want a particular woman no matter how hard she tries. Usually this means that he is profiling her.

Women complain that some men treat them like objects such as just for sex.

Some relationship books teach women to treat the man like something to catch. Just as if he is an object. I have seen a few women do this and end up with disaster, regretting what they have got themselves into. Men do not like to be treated like objects either.

My suggestion: give the “how-to” relationship books a pass. Don't waste your time trying to "catch a man", instead, just be yourself and if he likes you it is you and not a cardboard picture that you have made up.

My friend did enjoy the book that she bought but the feeling inside her didn’t last. She took my advice and did not go on to yet another book that makes wild promises. I thought that I had helped her get off the “hyped-promise” books that she had been buying one after another.

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