Finding a Sincere Man

In my travels around many countries and having lived in some, I can assure you that there are some awful men out there. You need to leave them out of your life, but how do you know a good man from a bad one?

First of all, you have to decide what you want in your life and what you don’t want in your life, and stand by your decision. You can’t be an absolute wing-nut and expect to find and keep a good man. Set your own standards and morals. Let the man know where you stand.

Profile the Man

You need to profile the men you are considering dating, moving in with, or marrying. What does “profile” mean? It simply means to take a close look at all aspects of his personality, lifestyle, and people he associates with. If he is in the bar every night with women hanging all over him, he may not be as desirable as if he were at a softball game coaching youngsters.

Profiling depends somewhat on the culture you live in. In a small town in Canada, men do certain things such as ATV riding, and behave in certain ways due solely to culture, and these behaviors and actions are likely different from men who live in New York City, who would have other activities. Good men and awful men exist in both places, but their actions are different according to where they live.

When you are profiling a man, you must assess his personality. Is he kind to you and others? Is he giving of himself? Does he share well? Or is he rude to you, running you down, bad-mouthing those around him? What is his family like? Are they a loving family or is his family the kind that yell at each other all the time? What about his friends? Are they polite to you, do they treat you with respect? Or do they hit on you as soon as the man has his back turned?

What Does Your Social Group Think of your Man

What do your friends and family think of him? Be open to honesty and criticism, otherwise you might find yourself hearing something you didn’t want to hear and become deeply offended, which may drive you into the arms of the “wrong man” just to prove to your friends and family that they were wrong in their assessment of him.

Question Him

As men are direct, ask your man direct questions and do not be oblique, especially if you have been brought up to be quiet and unquestioning. Shyness or indirectness may make you somewhat psychologically blind to men. You may want to see the optimistic side of him and not look for the deeper side. Men are direct and you can be too.

If you connect with a man who professes to be interested in you and you are interested in him, he is not going to mind the fact that you are making sure he is being honest and forthright with you. Given a bit of time, you can figure him out in a deep way – which I call profiling. During the process if you find things about him that are unsuitable or intolerable for you, then you can get away from him before any damage is done.

One crucial factor is chemistry. This should be long-lived (which rules out infatuations) and should be mutual. You need to have some sort of common interests, things that you can do together that you both enjoy. These things are more than just what you and he may put forward when you first met.

No man is perfect, but if he is trying to do his best to live a good life, he is not a thief, not a liar, not violent towards you, then that is all good. If he likes you and you like him, and if he passes the test of your assessment, then perhaps you have a good man.

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